When you start creating your vision for your dream life, are you stopping just short of thinking you can have the lifestyle or career of your hero? Are you respecting them too much and thinking you always need to be one level less-than? Are you doubting your own ability to be just as successful as them or, gasp!, more success than them?

Having someone who’s life looks perfect and magazine glossy tell you how to fix your life can be infuriating and not the least bit helpful when we’re stuck in our lives and don’t know how to get out.

Luckily, the universe gave us both Jen Sincero and her book, You Are a Badass.