Episode 76: Manifesting Success & Living Your Best Life | Amy Rosoff Davis | Celebrity Trainer, Actor & Lifestyle Coach
Amy Rosoff Davis is a true rainmaker. An actor, celebrity fitness trainer, nutrition and wellness coach, lifestyle blogger, and multipreneur who’s mastered the art of creating the life she wants. From starting with one client to touring the world as Selena Gomez’s trainer, Amy has built a career rooted in passion, adaptability, and saying yes to new opportunities. She shares how she balances entrepreneurship with motherhood, the power of surrounding yourself with driven and inspiring people, and why evolving is essential to happiness. Amy opens up about imposter syndrome, manifesting big dreams, and her belief that if you’re not lit up by what you’re doing, you’re just going through the motions. Her journey is a masterclass in self-belief, growth, and building a life that’s both successful and fulfilling.
“If we can all be our best selves and show up for each other, we can make this world a better place.”
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Sasha Sagan
Ithaca New York
NYU
Fight for Fame on E!
Grey’s Anatomy
Shonda Rhimes
Marvel
Netflix
Kristen Bell
Jen Sincero
You Are A Badass
Eat Pray Love
Intuitive Eating
IAMA Theater Company
Portola Paints
The Jane Club
June Diane Raphael
Abby Wambach
Glennon Doyle
Oprah
Super Soul Conversations Podcast
Elizabeth Gilbert
The Conscious Parent book
Gabrielle Bernstein
Michelle Obama
Ellen DeGeneres
Portia De Rossi
Katie Lowes
Marianne Williamson -
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Chapters
00:00 Meet Amy Rosoff Davis
03:40 From Ithaca to NYU to Los Angeles
07:15 Starting with One Client and Growing to Train Selena Gomez
11:30 Living Many Fitness Lives
15:20 Building a Multipreneur Career
19:10 Balancing Business and Motherhood
23:00 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
27:45 Why Manifestation Works
31:20 The Sister Wives Friendship Circle
35:40 Acting, Fitness, and Lifestyle Coaching
39:15 Influences from Oprah to Gabrielle Bernstein
43:50 Lessons from Theater and TV Work
47:25 Building a Life Around What Lights You Up
51:10 Books and Podcasts That Inspire
55:40 Advice for Designing Your Best Life
I really, really believe when you do something that you love, that lights you up, you can do or be anything in whatever field, and you can make a beautiful change and in this world and leave a beautiful mark on this world. And it's what makes you feel good. Because if you don't feel good, you're just, you're not gonna be in your place of joy for yourself or for others.
That's Amy ROV Davis and this is The Powerful Ladies Podcast.
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Amy ROP Davis is a rainmaker. She's mastered, manifesting the life she desires and going with the flow as new opportunities appear. She's an actor, celebrity fitness trainer, nutritionist and wellness coach, a blogger, a mother, and an all around how to live your best life guru. In this episode, we talk about how being Selena Gomez's on tour fitness trainer changed her career plan, why her sister wives are everything, and how as part of a modern dual, multi entrepreneur couple, she's learning how to navigate our new normal all while continuing to expand her empire.
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Well, welcome to the Powerful Ladies podcast. Thank you. We are, you know, walking into everyone's homes now that we are live on Zoom doing this. And I love that you have the most helpful daughter so far. Yeah, she's, she's really here to support you.
She's very concerned. She's like, are you watching a show? I was like, no.
She's like, you working? I was like, yeah. But then, and she sees my clients on Zoom every day. She knows all of them. Mm-hmm. So, you know, she likes to bring me stuff, use her weights. And recently she has started telling all my clients, don't forget to pull your shoulders down. 'cause I say that all the time.
So she walks around being, don't forget. So she's very helpful. Yes.
I love it. Yeah. Yeah. We need all the help we can get right now, right? Uh, we all do. Yes. Yeah. Yes. I wish there was an extra pair of, you know, toddler sized hands around my house because there's so many things I could put them to use for
Oh yeah.
It's, and they
love a task, let me tell you that.
A kid loves a task. Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
So.
Yeah. Well, I would love to, to begin by sharing with the audience who you are and what you're up to.
Well, I mean, this question could have a couple different answers. Normal life answer, and then the current life answer, and then the current, current life answer.
So, um, it's just strange times as we know this, this 2020 year, uh, I am a, a personal trainer, a health coach, lifestyle coach, wellness coach. Um, I happen to have a lot of celebrity clients. I'm also an actor, a mom. Um, I work with a lot of brands on social media. I wear a lot of hats in my life, and I'm currently seven months pregnant, so I'm really, I'm really going for the, uh, how many things can I do in life thing.
Mm-hmm. Um, but yes, my main job is a, um, a a personal trainer and, you know, nutrition life coach and, um, I. I got here from acting. And so I still have some, some voiceover jobs I do, and I, I do commercials and I did a lot of television for a long time and found myself, uh, after a television show saying I can't go back to waiting tables.
So one of my friends said, why don't you become my trainer? You're so fit and you work out and you love Pilates and yoga and this. So I started with one client and then, um, grew into having a handful of incredible clients and then somehow was training Selena Gomez and went on tour with her, and she was, she was the one that kinda helped put my, my brand on the, I guess the map, if you could say that.
I feel strange saying that, but um, you know, and then I had my daughter and then I kind of turned it into more of a wellness, lifestyle, nutrition, you know, Jane of all trades. And, um, so yeah, that's what I find myself doing and raising a small, tiny person. And growing one. And growing one. Yes. Yes. Mm-hmm.
Sometimes I'm carrying her and I'm like, well, I'm, I'm holding two children right now. Yeah.
And for everyone who's wondering, who is this superwoman? What is your name?
Oh, sorry. Uh, my name's Amy Roff Davis. Um,
yeah. That's my name and I love that you are recommended by one of my favorite guests so far.
Sasha Sagan. Yes. Who is your best friend? Yes. And how did you guys
meet? We grew up together in Ithaca, New York. Very small liberal town in upstate New York, and we have, oh gosh, I mean since kindergarten. And then we wound up both going to n nyu. Mm-hmm. And we were both pregnant with our daughters at the same time.
And we have a group of five. We, our text chain is called Sister Wives. We are best friends and I mean, it's the closest, you know, I have a sister, but it's the, the closest thing to a real sisterhood. And, um, yeah. And Sasha and I have also, we've traveled a lot. We both did our semesters abroad together at the same time.
We were in separate cities, but we met up in different cities. We've gone to Costa Rica together when she lived in London. I visited her. We're very, very close. And she is one of the smartest, most inspiring people I have ever met. And I feel very honored that I got to grow up with her family and know her dad, and know her mom, who's just, uh, incredible.
She's on my, my list of women I admire. Um, yeah. So, yeah, Sasha's a, she's a brilliant one. All right. Yeah.
Yeah. Did did you come out to LA from New York for your acting career?
I did. I graduated from Tisch, from NYU, moved right out and, you know, it took me a couple years to get settled. Mm-hmm. And, um, you know, get an agent, all that.
I actually did this show called Fight for Fame. I think it was on e it was like five actors compete to win an agent, blah, blah, blah. And I won. 'cause I was like, of course I'm gonna win. You know, I had this very, I was like, if I'm gonna do a reality show, which I swore I would never do, I'm gonna win. So I did.
And that got me my first agent and mm-hmm. Which actually the agency then like, turned into my current voiceover agent, which I'm still with like two decades later. How long have I been here? Since 2005, uh, 15 years. Yeah. Almost. Mm-hmm. Almost. Mm-hmm. So, um, you know, I kind of got my start in that. And then, yeah, I did years of just the acting thing, like very tough and, and a rewarding road.
'cause I did, I feel very grateful. I worked a, a decent amount and I was on a series and a record on a bunch of shows and I had my bucket list shows. When I moved out here, I was like, I will be on Grey's Anatomy. And I was, and I had always dreamed of like, you know, being on like a medical whatever show.
And then I did all of Shonda Rhimes shows and, you know, I had a good run. And then this was, you know, training became my side job. And, um, actually one of the books I wanted to talk about, which we'll get to later, but I read this book that kind of helped change my life. And I booked at a pilot season for the first time to go on tour with my client, Selena Gomez.
And it changed my whole life, so. Mm-hmm. You know, you find yourself in such, not the place you thought, but a really beautiful place sometimes that you didn't realize.
Yeah. When you look back at 8-year-old, you would she have imagined what your life is today?
Um, yes and no. I mean, I was like, at eight years old, I was like, I will be a famous actress.
I mean, that was like my mantra from like very young. Like that was all I was doing. There's no backup plan, you know, like very much. And you know, and I've done so much, so much work over the years on, um. On manifest, in which everyone has always said, they're like, Amy, you're the craziest manifester. Like, you're, you're my shaman, called me a rainmaker.
Like I, I put something in motion and I get it for everything except acting. Um, which I still got, but it was like, it wasn't what I thought it was like, you know? Mm-hmm. So I did a lot of work on, on, you know, the acceptance and this, I did all kinds of like groups and meditations and chant things and, you know, uh, I differ from Sasha and I'm a little bit more of the like, you know, uh, spiritual guru lady.
But, um, but one of the things was is, is being able to manifest and, and let go of the outcome, but having the intention of what you want. And so I think my younger self saw me. I mean, I have like, I would write a letter to myself 10 years later and it was like, I'm living in Los Angeles. I'm the, and so, and all of it has come true except the acting part.
But yet, I, I surround myself, not only my best friends out here, but my clients are, I mean, pretty much all pretty big working actors, musicians, or mm-hmm. Models or whatever it is. And so it's like I'm in that life, but I'm not what I thought I would be, but I'm actually really happy that I didn't turn out that way.
And I still get to act and do that with my, my, uh, cartoons and all of that. And I, you know, all that. So, you know. It'ss, what are
cartoons that you're doing now?
I
sadly have NDAs for
both of them. Oh, you do? Okay. I can't talk about them, but one is on Netflix and one is a Marvel show.
Exciting. So I think
that's all I can say.
Yeah, that's okay. It's ex Yeah. But I do a lot of like commercials. I mean, I've done like the, like Starbucks, MTA latte, you know, all the, like, from everything A to Z I've done video games, you know, a lot of like FBI like go back to, you know, you have to go back to start, get a new car, you know, all that stuff.
So it's great. I, I love voiceover acting because it's, it's really fun. You still get to do all this stuff you'd wanna do, but you can do it from home in your pajamas. And especially now, I mean, I record my shows from home in my pajamas. Mm-hmm. So, yeah. Well,
an animated shows are the only ones that have been able to stay working.
Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. And we, there was a couple weeks where it was like. How are we gonna do this? And then they'd send a, you know, sound engineer to zoom with and be like, this sound doesn't go good. Go to, you know, your closet. Go to this. And so it took a while to like figure out how deep to shove my mic in the closet and figure out how to make it work, and then get the toddler out when there's no childcare right now, you know?
Mm-hmm. But we, we've opened our cell up to my mother-in-law who lives, and my father-in-law who live blocks away. So, um, you know, it's, it's, we're just figuring, figuring it all out.
Yeah. I keep, um, waiting to see, you know, memes where they've, like someone's duct taped their toddler. It's like the back of the door.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So their mouth is covered, their, they can't go anywhere. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. You just stop.
Yeah. Freeze it. Freeze them. Yeah. Luckily, like she, 'cause we didn't do like pretty much any or that much screen time before this, and now I'm like. 30 minutes, four to five minutes. Now it's like she can get up to an hour a day if possible.
I like to separate it, but worst case, if I have clients back to back and my husband can't help her this. Mm-hmm. So I do know and she loves it. So sadly, I do always have, or not sadly, but I do always have that as a, as an option. I just feel this like pain of guilt. But it's like Daniel, Ty Tiger and, and PBS shows and Sesame Street and, and Frozen 'cause, and
Frozen
On, frozen on repeat the other day she goes, can we hear Kristen Bell sing?
And I'm like, if you only knew that Kristen was one of my first clients, and like, you know, but yeah.
Mm-hmm. Yeah. How, um, how did you become so passionate about fitness and nutrition? Was it just you keeping up with like what the lifestyle that you wanted, like how did it move into this is now what I'm doing?
Like, someone actually hired me to do this.
Yeah. Well, I, I started as a dancer very young, so I've been very connected to my body and physical movement since I was like five years old. Mm-hmm. Loved performing, loved being on stage. I was a cheerleader as well, which is a key, key player in this, because I'm also, like, I talk about this a lot in interviews and stuff.
I'm not like reinventing the new moves of the century. Mm-hmm. But you're a cheerleader and people like working with you because you. Inspire them and you push them in a loving or hard way, you know, whatever. Mm-hmm. So I was cheerleader, and then in college I became a really big yogi and addicted to all kinds of fitness.
Everything from a kickbox in class. Mm-hmm. I mean, you give me a step in step aerobics and I will go to town, you know. And then I moved out here and I moved out with someone I had been dating for years, and his mother was a Pilates instructor and she got me into Pilates and I was like, oh my God, where has this been all my life?
And I mean, my fitness has had so many different journeys. I had a period where I, I definitely overworked out and was just, I mean, I didn't think I deserved a shower unless I had sweat to the point of, you know mm-hmm. Craziness. Um, so I, I lived many like fitness lives and then I also grew up with Sasha in this very, you know, open, um.
Not open this very, you know, farm to table. Yeah. Cooperative farmer's market, um, green land. And, uh, you know, my par, like my snacks growing up were like rice cakes and carrots. Like, I'll always choose like a pretzel over a chip, which my friends are like, what? Like, it's, you know. Yeah. So I, and then my sister's a nutritionist.
She's actually a nutritionist for, and a diet. I'm sorry, she's a dietician. Mm-hmm. I'm a nutritionist. She's a dietician for neonatal babies. Mm-hmm. So she like went to school, did that whole thing. So that was also always, you know, she talked about a lot. Mm-hmm. And then, um, I just was always into all kinds of wellness and health and moving out here, especially, there's so many resources and there's so much information.
Mm-hmm. And there's so many. I mean, from podcasts to just people you meet to, like my facialist is a reiki facialist. Like there's just constant stuff. And I just was, I loved it all so much and I wound up, um, soaking it in and then sharing it back with clients. And then slowly they were like, you're a one-stop shop.
Like, I ask you this and you either have a link for me or the answer, or you have a this and this. And then, you know, that same ex I was with Move out here was a chef. So I got really into cooking. And then when we broke up, I moved in with my really good friend and she's an amazing chef. And so then I was like, wait a second.
I love cooking and I've always loved healthy food and like, so it's all been this very organic journey and, um. I, I just love it. And when I'm passionate about something and love it, I, I wanna learn more about it and I wanna scream it from the rooftops. And so that's, that's kind of how it happened. It just totally organic, random, you find yourself on the, you know, my side job is my job, so, yeah.
Mm-hmm.
Yep. I love the idea of just getting so obsessed with something that you're like, of course I can. Like, I'm now qualified. I know. I read every article possible.
Yeah, yeah, exactly. And then, like, I, you know, for years was like, oh, like I, I know enough about nutrition. Fine. And then I was like, ah, you should probably like do a nutrition class.
So then I, you know. Mm-hmm. But I didn't like go to like, you know, school for it. I did an online course with someone I knew that was a person that I respected, who, you know, it's like there, you know, and it's funny 'cause I also, I just am finishing another yoga training. I've done a couple of them. I don't have my 500 hours, which has been a.
Imposter syndrome, phony like thorn in my side. Oh mm-hmm. For so long. And yet I've done yoga almost every day for 20 years at studios, ranging from all kinds of styles. Everything from Vinyasa to Ashtanga to Jiva mti, to which is its own kind of, it's a studio, New York, but it's kind of its own method. I mean, so, and, and when I was finishing up this last, um, certification, which was another 200 hour.
And I almost have my, from different places, but the yoga council doesn't recognize it unless it's all from the same place. So I have the hours, but they're all like a patchwork from different places. Mm-hmm. But I'm finishing up, and a lot of the stuff with the yoga teacher too is, you know, you talk a lot in this training and about life and I mean, one of the things I love about all of my yoga teachers is their demeanor and, and their mm-hmm.
Their heart and how calm they are, and which is something I've always struggled with too. My, my non meditative crazy mind. Um, but, so we talked a lot about this imposter syndrome I have, and she was like, you're one of the best teachers I've trained, and it, it flows through you and you don't need this piece of paper and mm-hmm.
You know, but I've spent so many hours stressing about my lack of credentials, and yet I feel a very natural, um, channeling of, of my training and my wellness. Mm-hmm. That just like, it's, it's who you're, yeah. Mm-hmm. So,
yeah, I have a client who, um, she came to me and she goes, you know, we were just trying to figure out what her business was like, what did, she knew she wanted to do something different than her day job, but couldn't figure it out.
And then finally on one call, she's like, okay, don't make fun of me, but if I could be anything, I wanna be the next Gabrielle Bernstein. And I'm like, awesome. And she's like, you think it's possible? I'm like, of course it is. Of course it's possible. And she's like, yeah, but she has all these credentials and trainings and certificates.
I'm like. Well, between now and next call, like, Google it and tell me what you can find. Great. And she came back and she's like, I have more certifications than she does. And I'm like, yeah. Like, I, I didn't doubt that because like, Gabriel is awesome. Like she's doing her thing. People love her, she's killing it.
Her universe has your back is on my book list. Like she's, but I'm also like, you just like stumbled upon this, which so many people did. It's like, yes. Yeah.
Yes. Yeah. And, um, this woman also has just those natural gifts. 'cause, you know, her journey like really taught her, like she channels it in a different way.
Yeah. I'm like, people wanna hear it from you, like, yeah. When, when we align with that thing, that lights us up and it it, like you said, it flows through you more than you would ever need to, um, consume or test or quiz or get all the, the things which I love learning. So like getting a certificate like makes me so excited.
Yeah.
But it's not required to be this huge contribution that you can be.
Not at all. In fact, I'm, I'm asking go to ask myself one of the questions that you were gonna ask me, because one of my quotes is a Jen Centro quote, and one of my favorite books is, you're a Badass. That was the book I read. Mm-hmm.
About five times before I was like, okay, I'm gonna book at a pilot season for the first time, which is really hard because I was testing a lot and so I was mm-hmm. You sign your contract when you test, which means like, you're like, I'm ready to shoot my TV show for the next 20 years. Like, it's in my hand right there.
Yeah. And I was terrified to book out of put season, and yet my husband, we had just gotten married six, seven months earlier, so I also was leaving my new husband this, that, but he was like, this, you're not gonna have an opportunity like this and acting will still be here. And like we've just talked about, I had, I have all the credentials for acting.
Are you kidding? I am more qualified to act than do anything else, which I don't really know what that means because there was a lot of rolling around on the floor at Tish and there's a lot of my whatever, but I've, I have put my, my 10,000 hours into acting. I will tell you that. But there was something in my gut and from reading the book, and I'll read this quote that was like, life is too short.
Like it's, it's gonna pass you by. And yeah. If your job is supposed to acting, if your Netflix show is gonna be there, first of all, it's not even during pilot season 'cause Netflix casts all year round. Second of all, um, you're not gonna know like if you made the right decision or not unless you actually leap into the net, which did appear.
Mm-hmm. But I wanna read this quote because it's my, one of my quotes from today, and it's from Jen since Cheryl, you're a badass. And it's, you just said like two of the things in it. So when you live your life doing the things that turn you on, that light you up, that you're good at, that bring you joy, that make you shove stuff in other people's faces and scream, check this out.
You walk around so lit up that you shoot sunbeams out of your eyeballs, which automatically lights up the world around you, which is precisely why you are here to shine your big ass ball of fire onto this world of ours. A world that literally depends on light to survive.
No, I love it. I love that book. I love her perspective.
Yeah. I mean, it's, it's the whole reason powerful ladies exist. Yeah. Really, right? Yeah. Uh, I mean, well, yes. Why not? Like, the whole thing is like, um, believing that the namaste mentality has to exist everywhere, not just in yoga. Like, you know now more than ever. It's like, no, I need you doing your thing as big as you can do it.
'cause that's gonna give space for somebody else to do what they really wanna do. And otherwise you're not, you're not, yeah, go
ahead. Yes. No, go ahead. I was gonna say like, if you're not lined up with what lights you up, then you're literally just like a robot your whole life. Mm-hmm. And what, how is that helping anyone?
You know? Yeah.
So it's sad. It's a sad, gray cold world that nobody wants to hang out in. Like, it's just not fun. No. And. When people come to me, uh, as a business coach and they're like, I know I wanna do something, but what? I'm like, well, what do you think is fun? Yeah. What makes you feel good? And what, yeah.
Yeah.
I've been working with a career coach for two years that I just paused because I'm like, okay, I'm about to have a baby. We're about to start a remodel on our house. It's quarantine. Like, I'm lucky if I find 20 minutes to take a shower, which I still do every day, but I, I, you know, this hour of.
Coaching. I love you and I love it, but we're just gonna pause it, but mm-hmm. But it's been incredibly helpful and one of the, the things I remember I think from Jen's book is like, you know, Olympians have coaches and Yeah. And you, you know, to sometimes to pull it out of you and figure out what it really is like to, you don't just know, you know, I thought it was acting my whole life, really.
I love people. I love helping people. I love working with people. You know, all the things that I love. I'm actually doing every day in my job. I'm, I'm, I'm like a version of myself. I'm a character. I'm not the same Amy I am, you know, right now even, or with my child or my friends and, you know, so you sometimes you just need a little like fine tuning and then, you know, so, yeah.
Yeah. It's amazing if, if someone's really listening to you. They're like, oh, do you mean this? And you're like, oh my gosh. That's what I've been trying to say this whole time.
Yeah, exactly. I know. Mm-hmm. And it's hard 'cause so many people don't think that you can live a, uh, abundant and fruitful and practical life just doing, you know, yeah.
X, Y, Z. But, but when it does make you happy, I mean, that's when the sky's the limit, you know, I think. Mm-hmm. So,
yeah. No, and the, the biggest secret for marketing or selling what you're doing is not to sell it at all. Right? It's what you said earlier, it's share. Yeah. Like if you're sharing and, and listening for, oh, I can help you.
Right. I can do that. Yeah. Let's, like, it becomes having fun with people and really being partners versus will you buy cookies from me? Like, that's not, that's not the need.
No, exactly. Mm-hmm. Not at all. Yeah.
Well, for people who are now super excited about like you and your take and how you've kind of covered, figured out your path and where you're at now, um, I'm sure they're also wondering.
Like, what is your, your nutrition philosophy? There's so many today between whole 30 keto, paleo, carni. Like, I've never, like right now, the two things that overwhelm me the most are figuring out if there's a new source that's telling me the truth. And then what's, um, what should be my meal plan? Because I'm very confused in both categories.
Yes. Well, yeah, there's, I mean, the, the world is very confused right now. We won't, we won't go down that whole path. I'll stick to the question. Um, the world is a very scary place, but, uh, I can give you my 2 cents on nutrition for sure. Um, but just for the record, for news, I usually do N-P-R-C-N-N. Um, but, um, so I have, I've always been a big advocate of balance in life, and I, mm-hmm.
I've also just like, I've lived many fitness lives, I've lived many nutrition lives, and I mean the, it's funny because my, my, my sort of method with training and my method with food are kind of the same thing, which is all coming from a place of self-love mm-hmm. And balance and this sort of yolo mentality of, you know, you're here if you're lucky for, you know.
I don't know. Let's go high and say 80 years. You know, if you're lucky, you get a co, you know, a couple more than a half a century on this, on this planet. And here's the thing, food's not going anywhere. You need it to survive. It's part of every celebration, every culture, every, you know, it's not going anywhere.
So it's really important, just like with fitness to me, to have a great relationship with it. There's always gonna be a new fad diet. There's always gonna be. You know, a, a new vegetable, kale head. It's like moment. And now it's kind of like, okay, kale was like a few years ago. You know, so, so what do you love eating?
And how can you again, go back to education, like learn about it? And for me, part of that was like getting in the kitchen and saying, okay, what tastes good to me? What feels good in my stomach and mm-hmm. And what feels good in my body and what nourishes me. I mean, food is there to nourish you, you know? So, I mean, I don't like to put trash in my body because it doesn't feel good.
That being said, I live a life of, of balance, and I don't stick to a diet. I mean, yes, I know people have had much success with Whole 30, with keto, with all these different mm-hmm. I mean, Atkins people had success with, meanwhile they're shoving sticks of butter down their throat, you know, there's all these things.
Yes. To me, love yourself, love food, and figure out how to eat nutritious, delicious food that nourishes your body. So, and not a vegan. I, you know, I. I eat grass fed meat. I don't eat it every day. I eat it in balance. Mm-hmm. Um, I eat, you know, wild fish. I eat a lot of vegetables. I eat a lot of fruit. I eat whole grains, I eat organic.
Um, and I put wholesome good food in my body, but I don't adhere to a diet I love. Mm-hmm. Food, I obvi, I love pasta, you know, so the non-diet diet, which actually is now being written about a lot too, is mm-hmm. Is what I adhere to. And I've changed so many clients who had, I mean, you say no to a food or a food group or this, and then you want it all the time.
And to have a healthy, normal relationship with food. You know, you, it just like the Jensen Cheryl philosophy too, like treat it or the money thing, you know, treat it how you wanna be treated, so mm-hmm. If you're gonna be like, oh, I can't eat any, you know, then you're gonna crave it, then it's gonna be this whole, you know, and meeting my husband, which was a, a big pivotal moment in my life of, I had just spent this time, like I had alkaline to my body and, and spread of my own Hm.
Beans and spent all this time alone after this like big breakup a year earlier and, and found myself, but also found myself in the kitchen and, and learning all this stuff and, and then met him and the har I first date, like literally, I had spent like the whole summer like. Perfectly alkalining, infrared, sweating, like doing all this stuff.
And the first day he is like, do you wanna get a beer and burger? And I was like, yeah. Mm-hmm. And like for sure, it's like, I'm a cool girl. I don't have any issues. I don't have any issues, which I didn't have any issues. I had just like gone on this like kind of spiritual eat, pray, love, uh, like dirty with myself.
Because also months earlier I was on a diet of like, you know, maker's Mark and like post breakup, terribly terrible. Mm-hmm. Um, stuff. So, but you know, then I meet him, we, you know, we fall in love really quick. It's this beautiful thing. And I, I had, I was so, I had so much time with self-love and then spend all this time falling in love and like stopped ever thinking about what I ate again.
It was this crazy thing. Meanwhile, like, we love food. We, we cook all the time, obviously. But it was, it was, I just, I was like, it's not cute to have any eating stuff, especially for guys. Like, it's just like, I don't need to have that. And food's amazing. So. Mm-hmm. I don't know. It was this combo of, of self-love and finding love and realizing that, you know, the more beautiful my relationship with food was, the more like, it didn't exist, it existed if that, it's like, you know, yeah.
You know, taking the same thing, you gotta let something go to manifest it. You put all this pressure on it and it's like, nah. You know? Yeah. And I've, I've done the same with clients who just, I mean, I've had such success stories. We're like, oh my God, remember when you met me and I would like eat an entire bag of almonds?
And I was like, guess what? Nature made almonds hard to eat, like in nature as they grow. 'cause you're not supposed to eat an entire bag of them. You know, it's like, so my whole thing is like, eat like a normal person, quote unquote, because everyone has a different quote unquote, normal person, whatever they need.
But
yeah,
you know, love your body and love food. And same with exercise. It'll feel good. That was a very long winded way of saying that. Sorry.
No, it was perfect. I, I think it, you know, I, I appreciate things like the whole 30 diet because it allows you to really see how your body feels. I like that. That's an underlying thing.
I really like the, um, being intuitive with your food as well, right? Like there's days intuitive eating you. What's that?
I said intuitive eating. It's like that's mm-hmm. Yeah.
Yeah, there's some days you stare at spinach and you're like, I will eat all of you. There's other days you're like, Ew, how did I ever Yeah, exactly.
Exactly. It's you have to listen to, and sometimes your body's also telling what you need or don't need. Like, I was vegetarian for a long time. I've been vegan. I've, I've lived every food life. And when I was vegetarian and vegan, I, my heart pounded every day. I was a little anemic. Every iron supplement I took made me feel sick or didn't feel like.
So I'm like, okay, I do, I need a little bit, I need a lot of spinach and a little bit of red meat, and I need to like, and I'm just so much happier, like I'm not mm-hmm. You know, red eyes and, and tired all the time and you know, so you have to listen to what your body wants and needs and mm-hmm. I mean, for me, that also goes with trying to.
Help our planet and, you know, so I do try to support farms and stuff that are as sustainable Yeah. As possible. But, um, and that is a real crisis. But I also, you know, nutritionally know that I need to kinda, I, I do need a little bit of meat for my, for my body. Mm-hmm. And I, and I, I love the vegetarian diet, and I play a vegetarian a couple days a week.
And, and I also, same with like you talking about the whole 30, like, I love a, like, cleanup cleanse every once in a while, you know? Mm-hmm. I'm not like, oh, the balance means I can have an entire baguette every day. You know, cleaning up is actually really great for your system, you know? Mm-hmm. And a little refresh, even if it's two days, or even if it's, um, cutting out alcohol for a week or mm-hmm.
My whole pregnancy, you know? Um, although I've had some wine, let's be honest, it's a quarantine. Um, but, you know, so I, I do believe in that in a reset is really good mm-hmm. For your system. But yeah.
Um, when you think about those pivotal moments that you've had in your life, you can really see your path, like in hindsight, like changing course.
You mentioned Jensen. Sarah's book was one of those, um, meaning your husband was another. Um, what are some other that have really impacted where you are today?
Oh gosh. Well, I guess my, my semester abroad in, in London was a big one. It's, um, I've, so in addition to the Sasha sister wife group, I have another very tight girlfriend group that we all met when we did our semester abroad in London and became very close.
We now have a theater company out here. It's called, I am a theater company, which is a, a thriving, uh, theater company. We're actually funded by Shonda Rhimes and, um,
love it.
Doing like really incredible work that's, you know, talking about real issues and, um, you know, that are also, you know, we're, we don't, we only do new plays, so everything's really, you know, current of the moment, you know, fun.
Good. Um. That was a big moment also in that I, I feel like that was when I really got close with people that were like me, that were, that were actors that were, um, accepting of me and my weird side and that I could be, you know, and not that I hadn't, again, my sister wife's sisters or my best friends since growing up and I had tons of other friends in college, but until you kind of meet people that really kind of get this, you're mm-hmm.
You know, especially for me, my acting side of me was like, okay. I was like embarrassed to show it to, you know what I mean? Especially like growing up in high school, you know, just like the jocks and the this, you're like, who am I? Mm-hmm. So when you find a, a group of people that you can really be yourself with and fall down with and they help you get back up, um, which is true for all of my girlfriends, but really specifically, you know, this, this, I am a.
Group of girls they have. Um, we've really, all of us been through some, some crazy stuff. And it, it was really pivotal for me to meet another girlfriend group that was similar to my, my sister wives growing up, that it's nice to have that balance now that I have like my sisters. And then I also have this other group of women and I have a very different relationship and it's with each mm-hmm.
And, uh, my parents have always been very social and it's, I'm a very social person. I have so many different friends groups, and I feel like that was a, a moment where I was like, oh, you can, you can go out and find more people. Like, it's okay. That's allowed. Mm-hmm. So that was a, a very big, pivotal moment.
Um, yeah, meeting my husband was, when I, going through that breakup, um, the year before I met my husband, I had moved to New York to do a show at Playwrights Horizons in New York City and moving back to New York after leaving it and moving to Los Angeles was a really big, uh. Change for me and a, a really incredible, uh, gear switching for me and mm-hmm.
And I think being on my own too, after living with someone for almost seven years, I was like, oh my gosh. And that's, you know, that kind of prompted that whole change and the breakup. And, and that was, I always say that's when my life kind of crashed down to, you know, restart. And, and then I, you know. Found myself again.
And that was that. It was right when I turned 30 and I'll never forget it 'cause it was, you know, it was a, it was a really big shift in who I was. I changed so much, you know, and I, I've had a therapist once that said the point of life is growth. And I say that to myself all the time, and that's what I, I grew at such a crazy rate and I fell down a lot, but I grew a lot.
Mm-hmm. So, yeah. I know we've talked with, um, quite a few people on this podcast about how much we're growing just since we've all been in quarantine. Oh God. Yeah. Like, we're learning so much every day about ourselves, about our, you know, partners, our families, our, our community, and just the things that we have to learn to keep functioning.
Like, it's, it's, um, I think some of the, like a lot of people have been talking about how they feel just tired. And I'm like, yeah, there's a mix of grieving what we had before. There's this mix of, oh my gosh, what's going on? But then we're not factoring in enough how much we've had to change. Like just gonna, the grocery store now takes.
Three times as long because there's like before, during, after the whole thing.
I mean, forget it.
I mean, I just
had a Russian Instacart order before this because I was like, oh, we need something for dinner, but I don't wanna go to the store. You know, it's like, it's a whole, and I used Instacart before, but I mean, everything's just so different.
Mm-hmm. And same, I'm just exhausted in this different way, especially not having. Much childcare if really any, I mean, my mother-in-law helps, so I can't say I have no childcare. Um, and then working just as much. Mm-hmm. And then it's being home all day too. You're like, oh, the amount of dishes I have to do and laundry and then planning dinner and then, I mean, it's, it's a lot.
And then there's, yeah, then there's the emotional way of, of, of the world right now and quarantine and, and everything else going on that's just mm-hmm. It's a lot. And then there's this fear. I actually had finally my, those, I am a girls, we sat in my backyard a few nights ago, spread out all with masks.
And we were like, is this the new normal? We're just, this is how we're gonna hang out. Like all of us, like scared to like pass a plastic cup to the other person or whatever. But we were talking about how the unknown is just so scary right now of mm-hmm. You know, one of, one of the girls in that group was supposed to get married this year.
And doesn't know, you know, not till, or I guess next year she's gonna get married in January, but she's unsure what to do with the wedding. You know, there's just so many unknowns and we always kept talking about how that's just, you know, there, there's always unknown in life, but that is such a, a. Constant right now.
Yeah. Because we don't know what every we, I mean, we just found out that actually I can't live on surfaces. So I've been screaming at my husband about the Amazon boxes and like, didn't need to be doing that. You know, like, put it on Amazon. He's like, okay, it's gonna be fine. You know? Yeah. So, you know, I mean, that, that being said, someone could have sneezed on it, I guess, but it, you know, whatever it is, we, it's, we don't know anything.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to send my kid back to preschool, having a newborn in the fall. Mm-hmm. You know, we don't, I don't know if I'm gonna get on a plane for another. I mean, I don't know. Yeah. And that's exhausting worrying about. Mm-hmm. You know? I, um, what was the, I had another like, uh, acceptance group I was a part of and um, one of the things he said was, you know, living in the future is anxiety and living in the past is depression, so we're all just living in anxiety 'cause we're trying to live in the future knowing what each week is gonna be, but we don't know.
Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. One of the women who's in the Powerful Ladies Thrive Collective, our online community, she's just taken on. She's like, I just plan every two days and then I'll plan the next two days. She's like, I can't, I'm, don't you wanna think beyond two days right now? And I'm like, okay, whatever works.
Yeah. Whatever makes you keep going. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
Exactly. No. At the beginning of this I was like, okay, we're just gonna live day to day right now. It's, you know what I mean? It's, it's too overwhelming. And, and now I feel like we've, we've gotten to a little bit of a normalcy so I can be like, okay, you know, now I also have to prepare for like another human joining our, our little tribe.
And, but yeah, you really can't, I mean, you can't, you know, I'm trying to plan and hope that my parents will come mm-hmm. This summer at some point. And, you know, they're older, it's not safe and, you know, I'm like, okay, we'll find a hazmat suit for you if we'll fly you here and this and you'll quarantine and this, and you know, it's, but then my sister lives here.
And then how do you, she has a kid too, you know? It's very complicated.
Yes. It is very complicated. Yeah. Um, when, you know, when you look at everything that you have going on, be like, how, how important are systems in your day-to-day life so that you can be all the roles that make up you,
uh. Mean they're important.
Whether or not they're sort of put into place is another question. And lemme be, lemme be really candid here. I am a very healthy person and health coach, but if I was not pregnant, I would be drinking all day right now to try to deal with some, which wouldn't solve the problem. But, um, let's just say it's overwhelming.
I mean, gosh, my, I wish I had better systems in place, to be honest. I, I have, we've figured out our groove. I mean, my husband works, he owns a business, a paint store, um, with his family and, and they've been slammed. Um, so he, they work, their showroom is obviously closed, but he was working from home for the first few weeks of this obviously.
And we were like, our system was like, take her, take her go, go. You know, I'm like juggling clients this, this phone calls. Mm-hmm. Um, and then he had to go back to work because, you know, they have to, they've shipped like hundreds of cans of paint a day. Um, so. Uh, I mean, you know, I have, I try to get up before my, my child and, and, you know, do a few things of my own.
And then he stays home a little bit in the morning. So I've now moved most of my clients to the morning. So I try to finish them, have 'em stay a little longer so I can check my news quick, check my email, this, and then, and then I'm just pretty much on with her until, or if my mother-in-law can help. And one of the things that's really helped that, um.
We actually spoke to a, a sleep coach at the beginning of this because we got a big bed for her and quarantine. Ha. It all happened at a, you know, transitions for little ones are very tough. So we were, the bedtime was taken two hours and we were at that point, you are completely just like, I am done with the wor and then it's like nine o'clock, we haven't had dinner.
It was a nightmare. So one of the things that I started doing that the sleep coach recommended during the day, which is a great new system, is we have Mommy and Ellie work time where we actually work next to each other, but together. So she has her own little toy computer, which really just says the alphabet and sings the most annoying songs on repeat.
And she plays them nonstop. I mean, it's like, it's other level, but I'm like, you know what? This is better than. You know, her tugging at me. So we have time when we work together. We have, she does get a little TV time, which sometimes I have to do during a client and sometimes I'll do during my, like, you know, whatever.
Mm-hmm. And then I reserved time in the afternoon that she helps me with house stuff. So, and she, again, you saw she loves to be a helper, so I'm like, yeah, I really need your help, like cutting up these vegetables. And I got her this set of like, toy kid knifes on Amazon. Aw. So I'm like, cut out this pepper and then, then she'll just eat it.
It's fine. And you know, so I have her help me with every, so my, my systems are really, but I wish I had like some more self care in there, especially 'cause I preach about it a lot. But I get a little bit of that on the weekends and at night. And honestly my, you know, one of my forms of self-care is cooking and I love cooking.
And, and she does that with me. And yeah, in a dream world, like I would have, you know, maybe some alone time where I could like either listen to a podcast or watch the news while I cooked, which is what used to have when she's at preschool. But you know what, fine. So, um, and then, you know, I, I try to stop working in, in the evenings to have that be a, a rule.
And it, it is hard. So sometimes I have to, I just launched my blog during this quarantine, which is another full-time job, by the way. And I love it. Yes, I'm very passionate about it, but it is another job. So, um, you know, sometimes I just can't stop working, but I, I try to make, you know, these little like ritual rules.
Mm-hmm. And, and some sort of schedule has been a helpful, that being said, like I don't, I write in a planner or my schedule and then I don't look at it, which is what happened to us a few times. And I was like, oh my God, why are you writing in it and not even looking at it, so, mm-hmm. I also have massive pregnancy brain this second time, so I'm like, this happened.
Don't remember. So, yeah.
Yeah. How, uh, helpful or supportive has it been having a husband who is also an entrepreneur and running, you know, his business and like understanding that you have 3, 4, 5 businesses that you're juggling? I
mean, it's, it's challenging in the, in the moments where we're both like right now trying to quarantine, no childcare, you know, I have friends that are like, Hey, let's do this.
Leave Ellie with Jamie. And I'm like, Jamie's working. Like I, you know, not an option. Um, but it's, I mean, since we met, it's been one of the things that's really, I mean, we have such a strong relationship and, you know, we are both artists and inspired by similar things and with similar brands and tastes in the sense of, um, our aesthetic and our.
We're both really hard workers and so our, our work ethic and our, our drive in this sort of. Healthy artistic lifestyle sense really helps. I mean, I'm, one of my passions also is design and, and, and all of that. So I, we have that to, you know, kind of bond over, but, you know, it's, mm-hmm. It's, it's hard in that we're both constantly building.
Yeah. And it's wonderful in that we have each other to, you know, I'll be like, read this press article, or he's like, well, how do I do the, I mean, it's also very helpful that he's a photographer as well. So, I mean, especially right now in quarantine, I'm like, okay, we got like four brands. We got 20 minutes while she's watching Daniel Tiger.
You know, go, go, go. But also because he is, he is, you know, he gets it and he, you know, he's like, okay, well the brand is not gonna want the, you know, 'cause he works with lots of, you know, he has a great publicist and does a whole, you know, he, he gets it. So it's great in that we can kind of have the same.
Like language. And I love that we're in very different fields, but we can bond over kind of the same stuff. So it, it's great. Mm-hmm. And we're both just really hard workers and I think that that's, um. That's great for Ellie to see as well. Mm-hmm. Having two role models that work hard and also play hard. I mean, we love to travel and we, you know, we love our weekend rituals of, you know, our bike rides and our, you know, swimming or, you know, but, um, yeah, we're both very similar, like we're mm-hmm.
We've been in this building stage since we met with both of our brands and it's, it's really rewarding to see how far they've both come too, so, yeah.
Mm-hmm. When you think of powerful ladies, what do you think of when it's combined and what do you think of those words individually as just power and just ladies?
Well, it's funny also because being pregnant right now and, and having a toggle, I'm like, women are everything. Like, you know, it's like he comes home from work and I'm like, you have no idea what I have done today. And like, here's a beautifully curated meal on top of it and, and I'm carrying a toddler and one in my belly.
So, um, gosh, ladies are, are just bad asses. And, um, I have so much more respect now being a mother than I ever did before. Um, but you know, I mean, collectively, I, I, I'm sure you've, maybe not, but I, my, my career coach made me read Wolf Pack, so I assume you at least know about it. Um. Mm-hmm. And, uh. And it's funny because my, my, like my tribes of women, my sister wives, my theater girls, my, and I have so many other women in my life who have inspired me.
And that, and that, I think I intern Inspire. Um, we're so strong together. And also each of us individually just adds so much, um, of our own unique beauty to different situations. I mean, in mm-hmm. Looking, you know, if I went through my phone, I, I, I have so many different people, women I could go to for different, you know, I'm like, oh, I'm having a, this issue I'm gonna call X, Y, Z, or I, you know, and, and seeing the growth of each of these.
And their, their personal journeys, their professional journeys and our journeys both together. Mm-hmm. Um, is quite inspiring. And, and it's the same in, you know, the, our communities. I'm, before this I was the, um, fitness director for the Jane Club, uh, which is a, you know, female workspace. Mm-hmm. And the women there are just so inspiring and so wonderful and I, I loved being there.
I hope someday to go back. They also have a great nursery and take daycare. Um, but, um. And they still have a wonderful online one at the moment, by the way. So if, if anyone listening is looking for a great community of women, the Jane Club is just incredible. Mm-hmm. And so informative, I've learned so much.
I mean, June Diane, one of the founders, her book is sitting right there representing a women's guide to running for office. And, um, I've just learned so much from, from all the women on my path in life, from my mother who, I mean, the text I got this morning about, you know, what her lifetime and our lifetime and that we're fighting some of the same issues still and, and their peaceful protests and their, I mean, it was, it was a really beautiful, very long mom text, but really I was like, my dad is not sitting there writing that.
You know, he's, I mean, he's amazing and, you know, yes, men are amazing, obviously, and my husband is one of them. He's an incredible human. But there is, there is some, there's a, there's a aness to women and together we are really strong and on our own, we are really strong too. And it's, it's a beautiful, beautiful thing.
You mentioned earlier some of the women that inspire you. Um, you know, Sasha, her mother Jensen, um, June, Diane Raphael's on our dream list for Oh man, I guest.
Yeah.
Um, so who, who else are the women that you're like, yes, I need to be, I need a little bit more of that in, in my life.
Um, well, speaking of a Abby Beck's Wolf Pack, her and her wife, Glen Doyle, I mean, forget it.
Um, just incredibly inspiring. I, I love Oprah and I love Oprah's Soul Conversations podcast. I've learned so much from her podcast and the amount of tears I have shed, and the amount of, I mean, her guests are incredible. I mean, even like Elizabeth Gilbert and, you know, all the, it just, I mean, everything. Uh, one of my favorite childhood books or child, um, raising books, the conscious parent she had, um.
Her on the, I mean, she's just like, I love her podcast. Um, and I mean, who doesn't love Oprah? Like, could she just be president maybe. Um, uh, and, um, I do love Gabrielle Bernstein as well. Mm-hmm. I, I have read a lot of her books and find her, um, inspiring and also like her, her story and her journey. Yeah. I mean, I love Michelle Obama.
Like, who doesn't love Michelle Obama? She's just like queen of the world. Um, I love Ellen. I, I think Ellen is like, I mean, I know these are all like the classic, but like, Ellen's incredible. She's so great and she, um. Yeah. I just love, I love Ellen and Portia. Um, yeah. Yeah. She
just, she just gives joy. All she time.
She gives joy. Yeah. That's,
I, I wanted to be like, she's just like, she makes everything like fun and it's simple. It's not like she's like, you know, whatever. She's just great. She's got a great heart, which is wonderful. Um, one of my best friends, I'm very inspired by Katie Lowes. Um, she is just talk about a hard worker.
She's such a hard worker. She's such a good person and she is, um, she just always has like the right advice and the right, like she lives a very, uh, uh, drama free, I mean, most of my life I try to live drama free, but a very, like, streamlined clean mm-hmm. Um, pure, beautiful way of life, which I really, really, really love.
Mm-hmm.
So, yeah.
When, when you look at. The impact that being brought on for Selena's tour? Like how did you see that coming? Like was it something that, did you see the impact when it was happening? And then how did it change? Like where you went after that?
Yeah. Well, I mean, I didn't know that she was gonna go on tour when I started training her.
'cause I started training her year, I think over a year or two before tour happened. Mm-hmm. And in that time, I got married. I mean, we, I get really close with all my clients. They become like my, my best friends and my children. And, I mean, Selena calls me mom, so it's fine. Um, but, uh, I, I, yeah, I didn't think, I mean, I had no idea about tour and then she brought it up to me.
She's like, I doubt you're gonna wanna come 'cause you just. Got married, but do you want to? And I was like, let me think about it. And you know, it was again, the hard decision because of the acting and then mm-hmm. The logistics of it, leaving my husband, I mean, the amount of stress I had about what to pack was a huge situation because you're gone, especially the US tour, you know, they're like, okay, so you're gone from May to July 4th and we're going up through Canada, but also all through the United States and the weather's gonna change and you can only have this and blah, blah.
And plus I have to bring workout clothes, equipment, you know, I got extra bags because I was like, well we have a Pilates reformer, we got two that's a travel, you know, all this stuff. So, um, yeah. And then on it, I, you know, it was a strange thing because you're traveling so much, you're so in the moment.
Mm-hmm. I look back now and I'm like, gosh, you should have read 70 more books, watched 80 more Netflix documentaries. You should have started your blog then you should have had your children then like the amount, because you have. A lot of downtime. Yeah. When you're traveling, when you're alone in a hotel room, when you're, I mean, you're at a show every night, you know what I mean?
And I was working, you know, we would train, uh, and did stuff before the show, and then during the show, you know, I also did her food, so I'd, you know, I was busy, but, you know, I, I did watch the show almost every night and dance to my heart out to it almost every night, which was really fun. And I don't, you know, regret that, but like, I could have like written like five books, you know what I mean?
It's like, yeah. Which I guess you could look back on your life and think that, so you can't do the what ifs. But, um, but there winds up being a lot of downtime and yet you're also so tired and you're so, um, in transit, in life that. You almost like can't do that much except mindless stuff, you know, you mm-hmm.
This and that was kind of what, like, I started tour, I think with 400 Instagram followers, and then I was like, oh, wow, things are going up if I tag selita in like a thing or a picture. And then, you know, one of my friends on tour, on tour with was like, she's like the most followed person on Instagram. I was like, oh, like, I mean, mind you, like, I barely knew who she was when I started training her.
So like, yeah, I just, I'm a decade older than all of them. And, um, you know, we all got very close, which was an incredible experience that we called Yard Little like Squad. Um, but it wound up kind of growing my, my, my brand without me knowing it at the time because I mm-hmm. Also had to get really resourceful.
I was like, okay, where. We're in Singapore, there is no ingredients. I know, and I wanna make her something good to eat, and there is like craft services, but I don't know if I if she should eat that or not. Like it was, you know, so I got really creative and learned a lot of stuff on, on tour, and then started gaining this, you know, Instagram following and, and realizing, oh, like maybe trading doesn't have to be like your part-time job.
Like, you know? Mm-hmm. It could be your job and your career. So, you know, then upon getting back, all of a sudden I, I got all these press inquiries and articles and people wanted to make videos and I, I was. I confused. At first, I was like, I didn't really do anything. I traveled, I learned how to Marie Kondo a suitcase like you've never seen, but, you know, so, and then it just sort of hap my commercial agent was said, let's look into some branding deals.
And it all developed over time and in this way that I didn't realize it was happening. Mm-hmm. And, um, that tour was just, it was incredible. My husband came and visited me all over the country and the world, and I, I realized how much I loved traveling on that tour too. And, and mm-hmm. It was a big personal growth experience to have that much alone time too.
I mean, you're alone in a hotel room a lot, you know, and then we would go out, or we would all hang out, but there was also, you know, they were also younger than me. I, I wanted to have my own experience. Certain nights I was like, I, you know, and I gotta get up and be like, let's do yoga. I can't be, you know, out, hanging out, talking about, you know, boys all like that.
I can't talk about boys I'm married, you know, so, you know.
Yeah. Mm-hmm. Uh, I know, I thought it was so charming when, um, we had Sasha on and she just lit up getting to talk about you guys and how proud she is and she's like, I really can't say why our group has become so like, powerful and what they're doing.
And I'm paraphrasing my words not hers. Yeah. But she was just really proud and inspired by how all of you have just kept building and going after what, what you wanted or what's shown up in your past and that you guys have been really good at. Maybe not planning for it in, in the traditional sense, but like when something comes past you, you're like, oh, maybe that, how, like what do you think is unique about your group where there's so many people that are seeing the success and their path, um, and like doing it simultaneously?
Well, what's
amazing about our. Our sister wife group, um, is that we all do totally different things. Mm-hmm. That we have completely different jobs. All of us. Not one of us is in even really a similar feel. Like as Sasha and I are in the most similar, but not even, you know. So what's great is the, the this support and love with each and the focus on each, you know, when Sasha was writing her book and I mean, we just wanted to know all the time, like, tell us this or what's this chapter?
What's going on with this? Or, you know, then her, her tour and her the, I mean, the amount of, we're just so excited for each other. Mm-hmm. Also because we've been friends since we're five years old, so we've gone through every like relationship breakup every, you know, college experience, this, that. Mm-hmm. Um, and now children are, are one our last, um, or our, our, not our last, but our current current.
We just had our last mommy friend. I'm like, my brain doesn't work anymore. The last one of us just had a baby. Does that make sense? Mm-hmm. We all now have children. We all now have children. She just had her baby, um, in May. And so now we have that to all, you know, add to our. Our, like, you know, our strength and our, our our different, you know, hats we wear.
Mm-hmm. But what's been incredible Yeah. Is, is the way we show up for each other and, and are able to support each other in, in ways that, you know, I don't know. You know, one of us, she's, you know, is like the head of HR for Rockstar gaming, and she was just promoted and, and I'm like, I don't know what you do really every day, but I do through what her, you know, it's, it's just wonderful to mm-hmm.
To learn more about different fields, but also just be like, wow, my best friend is incredible at their job, and I get to watch them behind the scenes and then in action, so.
Mm-hmm. Yeah. No, it's, there's, um, it's almost like the pride of seeing like kids do something right? Like when your, when your girlfriends do it, you, you're more excited for them than for you when
things percent, it's so exciting.
Mm-hmm. And it's, it's a nice balance in my other girlfriend group that we're all actresses, which, and that's great. And that also presents its own challenges. So I kind of have, mm-hmm. I feel very blessed. I have this like yin and yang of best friend groups that, um, really balances each other out. Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
We ask everyone on the podcast where they put themselves on the powerful lady scale, zero being average, everyday human, and 10 being like utmost powerful lady. Um, where would you put yourself today and where would you put yourself on average?
Oh gosh. That is a, that is a chaffy. I mean, today when I feel like there's a lot more I should be doing for our world, I feel like I'm maybe a five.
Um. Because I, I need to be more active in, in the current climate of our, our country right now and everything going on. Mm-hmm. I'm also pregnant and taking care of a toddler with no childcare and working, so I'm trying to give myself that little break on a normal day. I'd say like tomorrow when I'm like working and juggling 90 hats, I'm gonna be like, I'm a nine right now, maybe even a 10, because the amount that I do before noon is truly incredible.
Mm-hmm. Um, and I, I, one, one of the things I love about my work is the, you know, I get to help people feel their best every day, whether that's physically or emotionally, or. SI mean, not spiritually 'cause I'm not a spiritual leader, but I do, I think it's the trifecta of mind, body, spirit. And I, I do think that I coach my clients in all of those arenas, so.
Mm-hmm. Um, you know, by noon, a lot of days I have helped three other amazing ladies feel better and work them out. And also, you know, keeping a toddler afloat and also growing a human. My house is pretty neat, considering it's pretty Marie Kondo considering the fact that we're at home all the time.
There's always a, you know, we're very, very blessed and, and I'm very grateful for the life that we have and we're very privileged. And I, and I see that and, um. So there's where I, I need to do more, more helping and inspiring of that and, and being more active. But, but I, I do a lot in a day and I, I am incredibly proud of that.
And, um, and I'm also, my husband's like, you're always, you know, in the evening after she goes to bed, he is like, you're just on the phone. And I'm like, I have 400 text messages right now. She needs me. Yeah. She needs me. There's 10 jokes on that that I have to respond to and make another joke to, you know.
So I'm also a very good friend. I mean, I have all these friends. Mm-hmm. Because I love, I love my friends and I love people. And, um. I'm always there for them, you know? Mm-hmm. So, you know, that's just, that's part of it. And we're all constantly having an up or a down. And one of the things, one of my friends in the, the, I am a girlfriend group said, um, I remember years ago was an older friend of hers said, you know, you'll never be all at the same point in your life and career as your other friends.
Mm-hmm. Which, and maybe when we're 80 and we're all like, well, we did it, so let's just put Bailey in our coffee. But for now, you know, I mean, and when I look, you know, my sister wife group we're actually. Now that we've all had kids and we're all married and we're all in our, we're more a little bit on par, but Miami Group, we're all actors are coming from that.
And it, there is this ebb and flow of, you know mm-hmm. Katie is on Scandal. And I mean, Katie has a very incredible career. She's also the most selfless, most giving, most active. And I mean, she's incredible, which is why she's on my, my list. She's just, she's one of those like aha people that you're just, you know, I'm in awe of her.
Mm-hmm. Um, but you know, there, there, there's a, a constant, um, there's not a competition, but it's, it's hard, you know, it's hard when you just, you move at a different pace than people your own age. Yeah. And having this compassion and love for them and being able to relate to them, and also being able to feel grateful and proud of your accomplishments.
Mm-hmm. And that, you know. It's, we are incredibly supportive of each other, and I think we really handle it in a very beautiful way and acknowledge that like yeah, it's, it's hard at some points. Yeah. You know? Yeah. So, yeah.
Her, everyone that's listening that, you know, wants more of those deep friendships and wants to be taking on more of their interest in different career paths and businesses, um, and is just really inspired by you.
What, what, what do you want them to know that maybe they, they don't know right now where there isn't top of mind?
Well, I would say that it is. Possible. I mean, anything is possible. Anyone, actually, Sasha wrote in, in one of Ellie's books for her birthday, this book Julian the Mermaid, where a little boy wants to become a mermaid.
And Sasha wrote an inscription the front front, and she said anyone could be anything. And it's totally, totally true. And you know, my, my few mantras in light or not few, 'cause I have a lot, but my few ones that come back or, you know, leap and the net will appear. Mm-hmm. And I really, really believe when you, you know, just like the Jen quote I read, when you do something that you love, that lights you up, you can do or be anything and in whatever field, and you can make a beautiful change and in this world and leave a beautiful mark on this world and mm-hmm.
And it's what makes you feel good. Because if you don't feel good, you're just, you're not gonna be in your place of joy for. You know, for yourself or for others. Yeah. You know, finding that, that self-love, I mean, if the, the relationship with yourself to me and finding self-love is what it makes everything else possible.
And it's not until you fully believe that you love yourself and that you can do anything that you will be able to because, and there's always gonna be that voice of self doubt. I mean mm-hmm. I have imposter syndrome every single day. And meanwhile I'm also like, you are doing it. You're an amazing mm-hmm.
And you're, do, you know, and I, I do, I love myself, so I, there's no like, fear in that, but, you know, we're all human and we're gonna have those, uh, those moments of not feeling like we're qualified for something or like we should have something or a guilt about having something. And yet that's not gonna serve you.
So the, the more positive we can think about ourselves and our, our place in the world and what we wanna do, the, you know, more positive result that will come of it. I mean, everything if it comes from love and, and a open heart, I think is, is the most, is the best thing you could do for yourself.
Yes. Yep.
Totally. And, and that's why I'm, you know, such a, so, well I'm, now that I at a lost her words, I'm so excited, but that's what makes me love everything that Maryanne Williamson writes. Yeah. You know, like, that's, that's all that it comes back to. Yeah. And I love that, um, where so many powerful ladies are today is that it really is like we are rising together.
Like we do have this opportunity not just to, you know, work our ass off and get to the next level, but it's like, no. Like we want all the things, like we want more self-love, we want more of the compassion, and we can get it by supporting and relying and allowing all the other awesome women to contribute to us too.
Yeah. Mm-hmm. For
sure. Totally agree.
Well, this has been so lovely. I'm really glad that Sasha connected us. Me too. Me too. I'm so glad. Um, as we're wrapping up, is there any last words you'd like to leave anyone with? Any quotes or books we missed or anything else you wanted to share? I mean, there probably is,
but I have baby brain and I'm like, you know, I feel like we, we, we covered a lot, so I, you know, my whole brand is, is, is love and being my, my hashtag is Be your Best Self, so
mm-hmm.
If we can all be our best selves for ourselves and others, especially right now and show up,
yeah.
Then that, then maybe we can make this world a little bit of a better place.
I love it. Yeah. And if everyone is now totally in love with you, they can follow you on your new blog. Mm-hmm.
Yes. You and you, the blog is, is active and fine.
I mean, it's all free, but you have to subscribe to get like the videos and stuff, which is also free. But you know, you have to join the email list to get, you know, workout videos, recipe videos. Now I've been doing a client interviews, so you might just get a, a, you know, workout with a different celebrity if you, you know, subscribe and, um, but yeah, you can find me on my, it's just my name, amy roff davis.com and my Instagram is also Amy roff Davis.
Perfect. Well thank you so much. Thank you. Hopefully we will, would be able to cross paths in person someday soon. I know. If we're ever let out of our houses.
Exactly.
Yes. Yeah.
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